We have more Break Up Recovery Tips for you today. Break ups are painful, but you will recover. It just takes time. How much time depends on you, how invested you were in the relationship, how long you were together, the circumstances that tore you apart and your approach to break-up recovery. When you’re done wallowing in self-pity, blaming your ex and picking apart every minute of your life together — all perfectly normal responses to a bad breakup – it’s time to close the book on your old relationship and embrace the new chapter in your life that is about to begin. The road to recovery may get a little bumpy, but the following tips can help smooth your way back into the online dating game. Be sure to check out our first post about Break Up Recovery Tips.
- Spend your dating hiatus putting in some quality me time. A break up is a good opportunity to reinvent yourself. Give your ego a boost with a makeover. Get a new haircut, drop those 10 pounds, splurge on a few new wardrobe items, join a gym – concentrate on doing things that make you feel good about yourself. When you’re ready to start dating, that glow of self-confidence will make you more attractive to other daters. Losing that extra 10 pounds won’t hurt either!
- A little self-pity is normal after a break up; but there’s a limit to your friends’ patience. If you’re still crying “poor me” or obsessing about “why did he/she dump me?” after a week or two, it’s time to pull yourself together, accept what happened and move on. If you find yourself obsessing about the relationship and what when wrong, consider talking things through with a counselor. A relationship counselor will be able to help you put the relationship in perspective and address weak or destructive behavior patterns so that your next relationship will be happier and healthier.
- We are not born knowing how to love and relate to other people effectively. It’s a learned skill. Fortunately, you don’t have to recreate the wheel. Many excellent self-help books provide valuable insight into how relationships work with practical tips for building strong relationships.
- When you’re ready to date again, stack the cards in your favor with a professionally written profile and professional dating headshots to show off the new and better you.